Men are all around, you can meet them at the grocery store, online, at events etc. Attracting quality men is about you and who you are. Are you interesting, are you engaging, do you invite a man to interact with you. A smile, wave and eye contact go a long way.

Most adult individuals want sex so let’s not objectify men as it pertains to sex. Sex is natural and will eventually come up in any relationship conversation because sex and intimacy is important. We have the ability to set boundaries, discuss/share your value system, men need to earn intimacy and you have the power to establish what earning looks like to you.

If you continue to have consistent dating experiences, introspection is key. It is hard to look at yourself and realize that you might be the reason that you are attracting the type of men you are attracting. There may be some subconscious thoughts and hurt that are preventing you from attracting the love you desire.

How are you interacting with men? Are you asking questions that feel more like an inquisition than curiosity of getting to know them? Ask questions that encourage depth of engagement.

For example, instead of asking what a man does for work, ask him what does he enjoy most about the work that he does. Also, be mindful of how interesting you are, do you read books, attend interesting events like plays, art exhibits or fundraisers? If you are interesting, and communicate in a way that engages a man, shows interest in him and encourages in depth responses that create a connection, you will have better experiences with conversation.

Men who are not mature or ready for marriage will run and I recommend looking at that as a blessing, however men who are marriage minded or ready for marriage will be open to the discussion. It is not the first thing I would lead with because you don’t want to overwhelm a person you are just meeting, similarly to meeting a potential female friend, you don’t say, I want a best friend the first conversation.

You spend time getting to know her first. if you are vetting a man for marriage, at the appropriate time there is no harm in stating, that “I am dating for marriage because I believe I thrive as a wife in the safety and commitment that marriage brings, as such, I am prioritizing men who are marriage minded”. Again, it is not what you say but how you say it, tone, your choice of words, all of these things matter.